An enlightened hug-a-holic is not about being an efficient, effective “professional hugger” who is trying to save the wounded hearts of this world. Its more about expanding the love inside your heart by consistently melting through the fearful egoic walls people have around theirs. All socially acceptable and unacceptable behavior comes from the ego and when you break through any social taboo such as hugging someone for 15 minutes in public, an entire Universe of unlimited possibilities will start opening up inside you.
“The sun shines down, and its image reflects in a thousand different pots filled with water. The reflections are many, but they are each reflecting the same sun. Similarly, when we come to know who we truly are, we will see ourselves in all people.” ~Ammachi (the hugging saint)
Your heart is the doorway to God, and there is nothing more socially powerful and personal than experiencing a deep merging embrace with a genuine heart warming hug. By implementing hugging others as a simple daily practice, you will mend the many years of deep fragmented feelings you may be carrying inside. Most of us are living in an overly controlled rigid social system that is afraid of social displays of affection. The deeper fear is that sex may take over the weak will powered beings and create all sorts of future complications. This may have been a problem 100 years ago, yet in the 21st century I believe we are much more conscious and advanced than we’re giving ourselves credit for.
When you start your hugging practice with people you might find a fear arises inside you from approaching those who aren’t ok with intimacy or their own sensuality. When you can break free from any fear of intimacy you are empowering yourself in more ways than you realize. This fear comes from our survival instinct that is terrified of being vulnerable. There is a deep inherent need to connect with people physically, and yet finding how to have real intimacy and healthy boundaries is the key. Welcoming the warm embrace of another makes us face how scared, isolated and lonely we truly are. Most people are sooo afraid of rejection that they cannot take the risk to open their arms to hug another. The fear of being shunned, unaccepted, and avoided is so painful that they would rather remain closed and distant, being free from emotional risk. The problems is this irrational fear can be soooo pervading that this energy can have a paralyzing effect on every single social interaction you have.
Courtesy: By Jafree Ozwald