yogananda

Friendship

There is a magnet in your heart that will attract true friends. That magnet is unselfishness, thinking of others first. Very few persons are free from self-centeredness. Yet one can develop the quality of unselfishness very easily if he practices thinking of others first.

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You cannot attract true friends without removing from your won character the stains of selfishness and other unlovely qualities. The greatest art of making friends is to behave divinely yourself—to be spiritual, to be pure, to be unselfish….The more your human shortcomings drop away and divine qualities come into your life, the more friends you will have.

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True friendship consists in being mutually useful in offering one’s friend good cheer in distress, sympathy in sorrow, advice in trouble, and material help in times of real need….One who has given his friendship to another gladly foregoes selfish pleasures or self-interest for the sake of his friend’s happiness, without consciousness of loss or sacrifice, and without counting the cost.

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sri m7. The Master

Once you have decided after careful reflection, treat him with the greatest respect and beg of him to accept you as a disciple. You are fortunate if he does, because a true master is not fond of collecting hundreds of disciples. Rarely does he agree to be the guru.

A guide is necessary in almost all cases because you are starting on a voyage of largely uncharted territory. You may find here and there greatly advanced spiritual beings who do not seem to have had a guide. They are exceptions, and though they may not have a guide in human form, understand that God Himself guides them and looks after their needs.

Don’t imitate them, for they belong to a special category. Do not even imitate your own teacher for you are not he. Follow his teachings and instructions instead and you’ll bloom into a master in your own original way and not turn out to be a faint imitation; a shadow of the original.

A master may be young, old, male, female, fair or dark. The externals do not matter at all. What matters is his inner spiritual status. He may, if he so decies, help you wipe your heart clear of all the accumulated vasanas and make you free.

May such a master guide you!

yogananda

Friendship

Friendship is God’s trumpet call, bidding the soul destroy the partitions of ego-consciousness that separate it from all other souls and from Him.

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Friendship is the purest form of God’s love because it is born of the heart’s free choice and is not imposed upon us by familial instinct. Ideal friends never part; nothing can sever their fraternal relationship.

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The treasure of friendship is your richest possession, because it goes with you beyond this life. All the true friends you have made you will meet again in the home of the Father, for real love is never lost.

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When perfect friendship exists either between two hearts or within a group of hearts in a spiritual relationship, such friendship perfects each individual.

sri m7. The Master

When the time is ripe, the master comes. You don’t have to search for him in Himalayas. He may be living next door but you may not know. Your ignorance and arrogance effectively help him to remain hidden.

If you are a sincere aspirant, if your only goal in life is to meet your beloved ‘Self’, if you constantly meditate and pray for guidance, the master shall surely come—if so required.

You may or may not recognise him but he guides you silently. The true master is the Lord Himself who takes on various forms to guide the devotee.

Test the master well before you accept him. If there is even a trace of lust or selfishness in him, he is not of the highest status. Test him thoroughly but have patience. Do not judge in haste, for, many a time the actions of a master have been misunderstood. Mysterious are his ways. Do not judge his actions without finding out the motives.

yogananda

CHAPTER 11

Unconditional Love: Perfecting Human Relationships

 Marriage

when two people feel an unconditional attraction for each other, and are ready to sacrifice for one another, they are truly in love.

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To wish for perfection for the loved one, and to feel pure joy in thinking of that soul, is divine love; and that is the love of true friendship.

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Meditate together every morning, and especially at night….Have a little family altar where both husband and wife, and children, gather to offer deep devotion unto God and unite their souls forever in ever-joyous Cosmic Consciousness….The more you meditate together, the deeper your love for one another will grow.

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Towards Greater Glory and A happier Life

 

 6. The Lover

True lovers of God are rare and, wherever they are, a flod of spirituality sweeps through and many are benefited by it. And yet most of such lovers refuse to be masters or guides since they are most of the time caught up in their own world of divine love.

A few of them, after having passed through the stormy stage and attained the highest, bring their minds down to everyday consciousness in response to the Supreme Being’s command so as to teach others. Such teachers are indeed the greatest and fortunate indeed are their disciples.

But, once more I must warn you. Some mentally unbalanced persons and lunatics may behave like bhaktas. So take care. Absence of wisdom and presence of selfishness and lust are sure signs of fake bhaktas and lunatics.

The rishi, the jnana yogi, and the raja yogi are of a different type. They are calm, collected and tranquil, and can often teach even without uttering a single word. Silently they guide and transmit the energy which cleanses your heart and clears the passage for the ascension of Divine Power which is the very essence of bliss.

yogananda

CHAPTER 11

Unconditional Love: Perfecting Human Relationships

 Marriage

Those who practice a natural—not forced—moderation in their sex life develop other enduring qualities in the husband-wife relationship: friendship, companionship, understanding, mutual love. For example, Madame Amelita Galli-Curci and her husband, Homer Samuels, are the greatest lovers I have met in the West. Their love is beautiful because they practice these ideals of which I speak. When parted even for a short time, they eagerly look forward to seeing each other again, to being in each other’s company, to sharing their thoughts and love.

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Every individual needs a period of aloneness or solitude in order to cope with the increasing pressures of life….Do not encroach upon one another’s independence.

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When the husband serves the wife, and she serves him, each with the desire to see the other happy, Christ Consciousness–God’s loving Cosmic Intelligence that permeates every atom of creation–has begun to express itself through their consciousness.